On a day to day basis, we tend to reject things – the things we don’t want any longer, ideas we don’t appreciate or opportunities in which we don’t see any future. Rejection is also an essential part of our existence like Approval. It makes us work harder ensuring the better quality of work. But do we all take rejection comfortably? Do we take it healthily?
With rejection, we suffer a massive blow to our ego. Ego is the innate part of the self that holds our esteem, pride, and self-worth. When it comes to ego getting hurt, we feel damaged from within. We then begin to blame ourselves, assuming there must be something wrong with us that led to the rejection.
Instead of sulking and wallowing in pity, we need to look at the other side and move on.
Here are my top tips to face rejection gracefully.
- Consider The Reason For Your Rejection:
The Law Job Exchange says,”
“The last thing we really want to do is to thank the person and ask them for further criticism. However, I believe that in order to grow within this competitive work market, seeking criticism may show us what sometimes we can’t see anymore.” It recommends taking rejection as a moment for self-reflection.
Once you ask the reason for rejection from the person rejecting you, you get an opportunity to seek some learning. I agree the answer will sting you initially. But, before trying again, you know the reason where you went wrong and can make possible adjustments.
- Focus On The Other Person Who May Choose You
Just because someone rejected you, doesn’t mean you will get rejected again. Just remind yourselves of the incredible things you have to offer and make an effort to epitomize on those good qualities. Take your mind off the rejection and focus on the other person who is most likely to choose you.
- Take Rejection In Another Context
Many investors would turn down startups without even hearing their pitch. Thus, budding entrepreneurs need to learn to move on from the word “NO” and take it in their positive stride. There will be many rejections on the way of success; you need to keep on moving ahead to climb up the ladder.
- Do NOT Let Rejection Define You
When you get rejected, avoid making sweeping generalizations as they only harm you. If one company has denied you a job, don’t consider yourself as incompetent. Similarly, if you get rejected by the love of your life, don’t label yourself as unlovable. Let life usually continue and take rejection in your stride.
Never let one individuals’ opinion or one single incident of failure define you. Don’t let your self-esteem get bothered by another people’s opinion of you. If somebody thinks something of you, it doesn’t have to be true. You are the best judge of yourself.
- Learn From Rejection
Ask yourself, “What did I learn from this episode of my life?” Instead of going into the self-misery mode, capture this opportunity for self-growth. Let each rejection of your life make you a better and a stronger person.
You may use rejection to learn about the areas of your personality that need improvement, or you may simply take rejection in good stride. Take rejection as something that is not as bad as you had imagined. Rejection is a good teacher! Seize the opportunity to move ahead with more wisdom after getting rejected.
- Don’t Take Rejection On A Personal Level
There is no point of taking rejection personally. The only reason why we take rejection as a hollowing experience is because we are emotionally connected to the person or the opportunity that you dreamt of.
Had there been no emotions involved, rejection would mean nothing to us. Rejection becomes a burden which we carry with us always. We blame ourselves for it forever. We truly believe that there is something majorly wrong with our personality that we got rejected.
Though it has nothing to do with us most of the times, yet we always play the self-blame game. Always remember that we can’t control other person’s emotions or thinking so really can never judge them for the rejection.
- Whatever Happens, Happens For A Reason
The moment of rejection encircles us in a dilemma of distress and doubt. It is to get over the phase of pain and wait for a better opportunity to come over.
It might take some time for the next better thing to come in your life, but it will surely come. There have been many instances when a love interest betrayed them, and they finally settled with someone who was perfect for them. And when this happens, you are grateful that you were rejected initially else you would have never met your ideal partner. Also, that is the time when they usually laugh over the ocean of emotions felt during the period of rejection.
It takes time, but we all find out the bigger and better purpose of rejection.
- Rejection Gives You A Chance To Make Headway
Rejection makes a headway to learn from the not so sweet experience. It gives us a fair chance to look within and ask, “Can I change this about myself?” or “Maybe I am better off that way.”
After all, nobody is perfect, and we all can improve ourselves and must learn from our life experiences. Sometimes, an emotional blow is required to come in contact with our true self.
If there is any way to take rejection positively, it is through an honest effort for self-improvisation.
- Get Back On The Horse
To forget the old one, straightway start with the new one. Distracting yourself is a better way than to show the other person how devastated you are after they rejected you.
Believe me, getting back on the horse truly helps!
- It Is Their Loss
A person who rejects you is not able to see the real you from inside and outside. So, what is the point of crying for someone who is not able to recognize a beautiful human like you? Thus, next time you get rejected think over your positive sides, traits and invaluable qualities which have been overlooked by that person. Always consider it as their loss and not yours!
Conclusion
Rejection is nothing but an emotion to reduce your ego. I know it is mighty painful to go through rejection both in personal or professional life. But, recognizing the hidden characteristics of this emotion helps you to take a step forward towards a stronger, better and a more powerful you.
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