Understanding or reading the mind of people is not easy as the work consist patience, adaptation with the surroundings or the circumstances of an individual. Relationships are never perfect and the imperfections make the bonding work. It is the imperfections for what the ups and downs in the relationships matter at times.
However, sometimes the imperfections set in so badly that it wipes out the slightest sign of perfection and eventually starts making the relationship feel like a boring union or an end-game. Some couples still try to cope up with each other and end up living unhappily or with a lot of compromises.
Are you in a Negative Relationship?
Let’s check out some tips which may help you to understand how to get rid of negative relationship.
1. An addiction may be a habit, not love
Staying with a person over the years helps us to grow or accept some habits. You may get accustomed with having beer together with the partner on the weekend even though rest other things between the two are not like before anymore.
You may also get into habitual sexual relationship at weekends but if that does not spark any specific feeling in you, it would be better to call off the relationship. Addiction is difficult and addiction of love is almost equal to the addiction of drugs. It has been proven that the psychological effects of the two factors are almost same on the human.
So, it would be wise to try to come out of the negative relationship when two people realize that they have nothing to give, take or share with each other anymore.
2. Allow having a break from the negative relationship when time calls
There are issues which a couple may not share with each others. Even if the issues are shared, any one of the partners may not understand or cope up with the situation. Such issues create trouble for any stable relationship. That is why one needs to take a break rather than arguing or forcing the partner to realize the gravity of the matter.
It is better for a relationship and also for an individual because both the people can afford them some times to fit themselves in other’s shoes.
However, if this break does not work and the difference between the two seems to grow, it would be better to call off the negative relationship before it turns worse.
3. Accusing or heckling verbally
Taunting a partner may be a sign of a good bonding between two people but if that taunting crosses limit and one of the partners gets heckled verbally by the other all the times, a negative sense may grow inside the person which may take a devastating turn. It would be better to talk about the issue at first but continuation of the same may signal the end of the relation.
This issue may create trouble in the professional fields as well. There are people who love to taunt the co-workers other than encouraging them. It is better to call off a relationship but tackling a co-worker is not that easy. But a sensible person can laugh at the negative words and concentrate on the work more than ever.
A cold war between colleagues always ends up in a nasty way but if it can help one to improvise ideas to get a promotion, no reply can suit better than that.
4. Stay firm on your stances
A person who wants to stay in a relationship or does not want to get involved in any sort of quarrels may be apologetic but if he finds that this characteristic is considered as his weakness then it would be better not to carry on in the same way.
Some people push each other verbally which may affect the confidence or productivity of a person. Therefore it would be better to say the right thing at the right time not being apologetic. Keeping the stance may help the negative people to change their thoughts.
5. Overcome your inner conflicts and stop contacting them
Anyone who believes others about you other than yourself can never be happy with you. These people can be around you like your friends but you need to stop sharing your thoughts with them. If your spouse starts trusting them over you then you should primarily try to make her understand the real situation rather than getting involved in any argument.
However, if the chat-session does not work then it would be better to walk away than to get into any argument with those toxic friends. Sometimes others may suggest sticking to the relationship by accepting all the odd factors but that may eventually ruin a person as he or she needs to deal with the growing mental and physical pressures which may affect the normal lifestyle.
Like everything, one needs a break in a relationship also. If it requires then it is better to call it off to save your own soul.
6. Set a life plan for yourself and stick to it
Be firm and set a plan for your life and stick to that plan. It will give you prudence and you may succeed to turn a deaf ear to the toxic people around you. Even at the time when a relationship turns sour, the life-plan may help the other partner to change his or her plans or view regarding you or your life.
In other words, without spending an extra word you may eventually turn a situation in your favor. Prudence or dedication to work sometimes helps a person to deal with the toxic people around them and become secretive. It is more because a working person may not share the plans with some others unless it comes to work.
In fact, it is only a strong plan which may eventually help a person to overcome all the obstacles to change the course of time and run it in his or her favor.
Endnote
You can never predict when a positive relationship turns into a negative relationship. But when it does, try sorting it out. If it doesn’t, cut losses and wind up.
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