I liked pretending to be other people: I could reinvent myself, reinvent my own reality, says Helena Bonham Carter.
The only constant thing in life is the change.
It is paramount to change life when it reaches to the verge of breaking. As Shelly says “Like a child from the womb, like a ghost from the tomb, I arise and unbuild it again”; in the same way, one must reinvent life when it feels unbearable, and everything is just wrong.
Reinvention is not an easy process. It is tough to let go of people, places, and habits that were a part of your daily life. But you have to take the step, be firm and remain strong to overcome everything that is going wrong and fix things up.
When do you need to reinvent? There are several reasons why one can reinvent life. But certain major things occur in life after which everyone needs to reinvent.
A bad relationship:
Every one of us has gone through a certain bad relationship in our life. This is one of those few things that ruin our mental and emotional peace.
The effect of a bad or unhealthy relationship is devastating. Holding onto something that has no future of its own is nothing but trying to ignite a fire from ashes. But the weak and unthinking human heart do not let logic and reason to penetrate.
Slowly the person encapsulates him or her into the solitude and as a result becomes dull and depressing. When you reach this phase of life, you should reinvent your life. You must always remember that you have one life and it is unwise to ruin it for a bad relationship. Your life is more worthy than any petty relationship.
A failure:
Failure is the pillar of success, this although may sound very clichéd but the fact remains true. But we do not realize it when failure comes and strike us. Poet Rudyard Kipling in his poem IF says:
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster/ And treat those two impostors just the same
No one has ever reached the pinnacle of success without being a failure in life. So once you fail to do something it doesn’t make you a loser. As you fail, the zeal to become successful should multiply within you.
You need to reinvent your life at this point so that the depression of failure doesn’t bog you down and you find out ways to overcome your failure. It is critical to know the ways in which you can reach the path of glory and success, and reinvention of your life is the only way you can do it.
Diagnosed with a complicated disease:
Life is unpredictable. No one knows what waits for him in future. There are times when the least expected things become the inevitable facts of life. There are times when you are diagnosed with some major diseases. It is a general notion that when a person suffers from a severe illness, the chances of the person living reduces.
This is very dangerous for a patient. It is believed that willpower can do wonders. To generate the positive willpower in person, it is important for him or her to reinvent his or her life. To bring back the positivity one should always change the old ways of life and accept the new ones to grow the passion for living barring the thought of death.
Death of loved ones:
Death is the ultimate truth of life. How hard we try, we can’t change ourselves from being a mortal person to someone immortal. It is very hard a situation when we have to face the demise of our beloved one, and we helplessly witness it.
But, Alfred Tennyson, In Memoriam, says:
Tis better to have loved and lost/Than never to have loved at all
The demise of a loved one means the separation of physical existence. But the strong connection or bond that you shared does never fade as feelings never perish. So when you are disturbed by the haunting memories of the death of you loved one, take some time out for yourself. Because it’s time, you should reinvent the meaning of your life.
Emotional vulnerability:
There are times when you take abrupt decisions in life that may not be the right choice. You might be a very impulsive person, and as a result, you react according to your emotions. There are times when you must take a pragmatic decision but end up taking an idealistic stand. All these things negatively affect your life, and you face trouble in the long run.
Drug Addiction:
According to a lot of people, addiction is the solution for all their worries. But over the long term, they are proved to be miserably wrong. Addiction only adversely affects a person physically, mentally and emotionally. To live a life full of opportunities and happiness, one must definitely quit this practice and reinvent his life towards the right flow.
Depression:
Depression is the emotional state of mind that a person faces when his or her life is enraptured in negativity. There might be positive things surrounding the individual but depression is too opaque to let him see through the brighter sides. One must instantly cut down the sources of depression and reinvent life with new possibilities.
Stagnant situation:
There are times when there is little or no progress in the personal or professional front. A person in such a situation is sure to suffer from mental and emotional disturbance. This constant pressure of stagnant life doesn’t let a person grow. It is imperative to look forward to new opportunities and get life settled.
Losing Financial Assets:
Financial assets are one of the most important things that a man possesses. When a person loses the entire saving of his life either in bankruptcy or in any other unfortunate way, a person has no hope to survive. The person ultimately gets demotivated and disillusioned. In such a condition it is critical for a person to reinvent his life so that he can rejuvenate his loss.
Taken for granted:
At certain times, you may feel that your loved ones are ignoring you or are taking you for granted. You are not getting the amount of respect, care, love and attention what you think you deserve. This might affect you negatively.
In such a situation you become a loner, and your life comes to a halt. Maybe it is your misperception about the incident. So you must reinvent your life to get over all the falsified ideas.
Life is all about reinvention. Reinvent life for happiness.
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